Happy 2019! If you’re anything like me, you love the energy and promise a new year brings. I totally geek out creating my vision boards (I have one on Pinterest and one hanging on the inside of my bathroom closet!), goal planning and dreaming about the future.
What about you? Do you have some of your own new year goals/resolutions?
Although I totally love doing these types of things, I also am fully aware that most new years resolutions don’t last. Most people don’t stick to whatever it is they are trying to change (a big reason I actually like changing small habits vs. creating big goals but more on that another time) past a few weeks or months into the year. This is especially true for health and wealth goals.
Why is this?!
Here’s the best theory I can come up with:
The reason these goals won’t come true is because while we take physical action (creating budgets/spending plans, going on diets, creating exercise routines, joining a gym etc.) we DON'T ADDRESS THE UNDERLYING REASON WHY WE ARE UNSATISFIED IN THESE AREAS IN THE FIRST PLACE.
If we continue to try to create physical change without addressing how we got to that place to begin with (whether that’s being out of shape, overweight, in debt, or something else) OR why we do what we do (like eating a pint of ice cream when we are sad or splurging on some new shoes when we are having a bad week) then the change won't last.
We might make it awhile and see changes with our new habits/routines, but eventually WE WILL SELF-SABOTAGE. We will go back to over-eating and over-spending because we are wired to do so. Because we didn't address the underlying causes of these thoughts/behaviors.
Most of these self-sabotaging behaviors have to do with self-love and self-worth, as well as how we are able to process and deal with undesired emotions (such as sadness, anger, frustration, loneliness, boredom, etc.)
So how do we actually go about making sustainable change in these areas?
Stay tuned for the next post where I will outline a few steps to get you started!
Until next time…